To Attract What You Want, Be Vulnerable

Trick or treat?

For most of my life, it was treat for me – I had a serious sweet tooth.

For the past few years, however, I have been particularly focused on the trick. Before your mind wanders into the gutter, let me elaborate.

Like most people, I have hidden behind a mask. Unlike the joy of wearing a costume on Halloween, habitually masking my vulnerabilities to feel safe has not been fun.  It has not only been a real drag on my energy but has also kept me from attracting what I want.

In order to attract what we want, we need to send a clear, consistent and authentic message.

When we hide behind masks that we created due to fear, shame, not knowing what we want or myriad other reasons, we are muddling our message.

To quote Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Once you make a decision, the Universe conspires to make it happen.” When we wear a mask or otherwise are unclear in our ask, we’re basically telling the Universe, “I haven’t decided whether or not I really want this.”

I recently shared some vulnerable posts because my message is I want to attract my soul family and ideal soulmate clients – people who are willing to be vulnerable and prioritize deep connections.  Meaningful conversations feed my soul.

Speaking of being vulnerable…

Last year, I participated along with five other healers in an amazing 8-month VIP program led by two high-level healer/mentors.

I knew that the only way to get the type of healing and support I truly desired was to lay myself bare and fully share how I was struggling. Since our mentors created such a safe and trusted space, I decided to open myself up completely.

As a result, I received an extraordinary amount of healing and experienced an unbelievable amount of personal growth and expansion.  I felt a bit like the Six Million Dollar Man, “…we can rebuild [her]… better than [s]he was before… better, stronger, faster.” The cherry on top was that what I shared resonated with the other members who benefited as well.

Was it easy? Heck no! It took an extraordinary amount of courage, work, inner reflection, healing and the right support.

Was it worth it? Absolutely. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made.  When I reflect on my progress, I am thrilled because I am immeasurably stronger.

Why do I share this?

So that other people will resonate with my message and raise their own conscious awareness of what they are experiencing. Sharing relatable messages is a key aspect of my soul mission.

A second reason for sharing my message is so that my ideal soulmate clients know that I delve very deeply into my own shadow work which allows me to guide them deep into theirs, in a safe, trusted, non-judgmental way.

A third reason for sharing is that even when we are willing to be vulnerable and know what we want, fears can seem insurmountable for some of us, like they were for me.  (I’ll be posting about ways to overcome fear, stay tuned!)

I cannot tell you how many times I tried to write a post then abandoned ship despite a friend or coach saying “just do it and rip the band off.”

Fears of being seen, exposed as an imposter, judged or criticized harshly, or rejected, all kept me scurrying back behind my mask, until I made the firm decision to send my clear ask to the Universe.

Sharing my message required me to make a few other decisions – namely, to be authentic and vulnerable in my social media posts (and not just in private conversations or settings like the VIP program).  That, in turn, required me to decide to be courageous and face my fears head on.

As I continue on my journey, I have experienced how vulnerability is an incredible strength despite our society conditioning us to believe it is a weakness. The more I courageously step into my fear and allow myself to be vulnerable, the stronger I have become. It also taught me to be much more compassionate to myself and others.

Now it’s your turn.

  • In what ways have you been hiding behind a mask?
  • What are you ready to ask the Universe for?
  • What do you need to decide to face courageously in order to make your ask from a place of authenticity and vulnerability?

Be courageous and be vulnerable, my friends.